Positions for Better Orgasms

Why is this the case? There are a few reasons.

For one, performing complicated acrobatics can distract you from the sex itself by putting your focus on the positions you're trying to maneuver into, or out of. Complicated positions can also put added muscle and back strain on one or both partners, resulting in exhaustion from the workout rather than from the orgasm. You start thinking about the pain you're feeling rather than the pleasurable sensations you're having during sex.

Another reason is you're more relaxed in a simple sex position. While it may sound like and oxymoron to be relaxed while having an orgasm, when you're body is in a relaxed position, you can go longer without becoming fatigued.

Having sex can be a pretty strenuous workout, even for couples that are in shape and exercise on a regular basis, so stepping back and taking a more relaxed approach will let you pay more attention to the sex you're having, and the pleasure you're feeling, and this can result in more intense, easier to achieve orgasms for both men and women.

A few basics:

Before we get into anything else, it's a good idea to touch on a few of the basics, and maybe there's one or two things we'll mention that you hadn't thought of before.

Communication isn't an option.
First and foremost, if you're having trouble achieving an orgasm, you have to let your partner know what's going on. Explain that it's not him, you just can't seem to cum when you're having sex, and you need him to help you by trying some different techniques. Couples that can't communicate their sexual desires, and sexual problems with one another are more prone to having less sexual satisfaction than the ones that can talk openly with one another, so if just the thought of talking to your lover about this is an issue, then you've just discovered your problem achieving an orgasm, and it might be a good idea to look into some sex counseling.

Get your mind INTO the gutter.
Focus on the things that turn you on and forget about everything else except the pleasure of having sex. This may sound a bit obvious, but a lot of people, men as well as women, have a hard time putting the day's events on hold mentally, and it can be the reason some women have never been able to achieve an orgasm.

Don't rush things.
Sometimes a 'quickie' is fun, and the intensity of a fast and furious fuck is enough to bring a lot of women's pussies to a shuddering explosion. If this isn't the case, then foreplay becomes even more important.

If you want to bring her to an orgasm, spend some time masturbating her before intercourse.

Start with a sensual massage or masturbating before intercourse. Since women usually take longer to reach the point of full sexual arousal than men, it's helpful for the woman to start first by masturbating for a while to get her juices flowing. The man can join in the fun, or let him sit back and enjoy the show.  This can be a major turn on for both the man and the woman since it satisfies the man's voyeuristic desires, and the woman's exhibitionist desires, both of which are very strong mental triggers for an intense orgasm later. For more in depth information on the importance of foreplay, read the section on 'Emotional Orgasms.'

Use Your PC  Muscles.
The PC (pubococcygeus) muscles have been demonstrated to be a crucial component to having multiple orgasms, so when a woman feels she is close to orgasm, she needs to tighten and relax her Kegels. This can be enough to bring on an intense orgasm.

Don't let your thoughts about cumming keep you from it.
Many women that have a hard time reaching an orgasm do so because they start thinking 'I'm not going to cum' and instantly try to 'will' it mentally. Don't try to 'think' your way to an orgasm, but rather keep your mind as clear as you can and just let yourself enjoy the pleasure you're body is receiving. If you start thinking you're not going to cum, start playing with your tits and your nipples. This can help you stay focused on the physical pleasure and distract you from the 'I'm not going to cum' train of thought.

Stimulating the clit during intercourse can help a woman achieve an orgasm, or multiple orgasms.

Don't switch positions.
Switching positions during sex can be fun, but it can also be detrimental to achieving an orgasm. If the position you're in is stimulating you and giving you pleasure, stay in that position. If it's not, then switch to your favorite position and stay in it until you cum.

MASTURBATE, MASTURBATE, MASTURBATE!!!
Many women can't achieve an orgasm during sex, but can when they masturbate.  The basic reason is that during intercourse, there is little to no stimulation on the clitoris.  Masturbating also helps your body learn how to achieve an orgasm, and stimulating your clit during sex can help you achieve that elusive orgasm, or multiple orgasms.

For more information on masturbating and masturbating during sex, see the section on Masturbation at PassionsUnchained.com.
 

OK, let's get started:

A good variation on the Missionary Position gives full access to the woman's tits and clit.

The Liberator Ramp provides solid support for deeper penetration in many positions and relives stress on both partners bodies.

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Variations on the Missionary Position.
We'll start with what is probably the most well known, and least respected position, and that is the Missionary position. Before disregarding this one and moving on to other positions, keep in mind the fact the Missionary position is a comfortable position, it allows for a very pleasant visual stimulation, and is a very romantic position since both partners are face to face. But the true missionary position with the woman's legs straight and spread and man's legs straight usually isn’t conducive to intense orgasms for either the man or the woman.  The main reasons are because it doesn’t allow for forceful thrusting, deep penetration or intense clitoral stimulation.

Small variations, such as the woman simply bending her knees (thus spreading her legs more), or the man moving to his knees and the woman raising her legs and bending her knees offers better access to the woman’s pussy, allows the man to thrust harder and penetrate deeper.  This also gives them both access to her clit.

Another tip is for the woman to place a sex wedge, such as a Liberator Wedge Combo under her lower back, then bend her knees and bring her legs back toward her shoulders. This allows for even harder thrusting by the man and much deeper penetration than with the woman flat on her back.

Another benefit is the fact it’s possible for the man’s cock to stimulate a woman’s G spot more directly since he’s now pushing in a more upward motion in relation to the woman’s vagina.

If you don't own a Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo, you can stack two or three firm pillows up, but this won't be as effective since it doesn't offer the proper angle or the same amount of support as a wedge designed for sex.  Pillows will also force the woman to bend at the waist rather than keeping her body straight, and the pillows may slide apart, interrupting the action which will have a negative affect on your goal of achieving a more intense orgasm. Unlike a pillow, which isn't designed for having sex on, the Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo (Available at: Passions Unchained Sex Toys  Adam & Eve Sex Toys  Hustler Hollywood  Angels Toy Store ) was designed specifically for having sex by creating the perfect angles for better penetration, and it's a product we recommend all couples invest in, whether or not you're having problems achieving intense or multiple orgasms.

While using the Combo can be enough to provide an incredible orgasm, there’s still more that you can do. When the woman feels herself reaching an orgasm, she can put her legs down, putting her body in an arch shape, but with her upper body supported by the Ramp. The man then leans forward, lifting his hips upward and putting pressure on her clit. The man now pushes his pelvis against the woman's and ‘rocks’ against her rather than thrusting, making sure to keep friction on the woman’s clitoris. This produces a slow, intense stimulation on the woman’s clit that can result in an orgasm the likes of which you’ve never experienced before, and have you cumming in waves! But don’t think this move is only for the woman’s benefit. The man cumming by rocking against the woman rather than thrusting forces him to use his own pelvic and abdominal muscles in a different way than cumming when he's thrusting, and this is enough to make his orgasm just as intense! One more benefit to this is the resulting ‘emotional rush’ and deep feelings of intimacy. While a man slamming into a woman hard while fucking is intense, it does lack some intimacy. Cumming by rocking rather than thrusting is more intimate than a jack hammer pounding.

One last variation on the Missionary is having the woman keep her legs together and the man straddle them. This slight variation allows the man to use his legs for better leverage so he can thrust harder. The woman can squeeze her legs together, making her pussy tighter and increasing the amount of friction, and it's actually easier for the man to provide stimulation on the woman's clit by keeping pressure on it with his pelvis. Definitely one to try!

Kitchen Table Sex.
Unless you have one of those tall kitchen tables that requires bar stools to eat at, your kitchen table can be used for much more entertaining purposes than eating dinner. Having sex on the kitchen table is technically another variation on the good ol' Missionary Position. While this may be a loose interpretation of what qualifies as the Missionary, the woman is on her back with the male taking the superior position.  Of course, what separates it from any other variation on the Missionary is the fact the man is standing. Also, the woman's ass needs to be at the edge of the table, so she can't keep her legs straight. She will need to support them on the edge of the table, on the man's shoulders, or she'll have to use her arms to hold them up. With the woman laying on her back on the kitchen table with her ass near the edge, she is usually at the perfect height for most men to stand between her legs and penetrate her easily.

So why fuck on the kitchen table? If you’re asking that question, then you haven’t tried it yet.

The Liberator Ramp cam be used on your bed if your kitchen table is too tall, too small, or isn't sturdy enough to have sex on.  You can try a wide variety of positions with the woman on her back or bending forward while the man is standing.

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Just the location itself can provide ‘kinky’ emotions to offer a more intense orgasm, but there are a couple of other advantages. Since the woman is lying down and the man is standing, his cock is entering her at a ninety degree angle, which puts direct pressure on the G Spot and provides penetration into new areas of the pussy. Additionally, the woman’s clit is more easily accessible by the man in this position than in any other position. The woman has easy access to her clit, her tits, and her nipples as well, so don't hesitate to play with them, which is an added benefit and will excite the man even more.

One more benefit to this position which can provide a more intense orgasm for the woman is the fact the she can increase her pelvic tension by clenching and lifting her ass. Not only does this feel good, it increases the blood flow to the pelvic region, which increases the intensity of her orgasm. If your kitchen table is too tall, too small, or just isn't strong enough to handle having sex on, some options are using the Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo shown above and placing it on the edge of your bed or changing the configuration and create a 'Ramp' up to the arm of your couch.

Doggie Style and Some Variations.
If you haven’t had sex doggie style yet, TRY IT! Just the emotional ‘bad girl’ benefits can be a sexual rush, and the simple change in the direction of the man’s cock entering the vagina is enough to provide many women with an orgasm she never thought possible before!

Doggie Style is one of the most popular positions for sex, and when the woman leans forward and rests on her chest rather than on her arms, deeper penetration is possible, plus the woman's hands are free to play with her nipples or her clit.

Using solid or inflatable furniture designed for sex creates more angles for deeper penetration, and is more comfortable for both partners.  This can allow a man to last longer before ejaculation and give the woman the time she needs to achieve an orgasm... or multiple orgasms.

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If you’re already experienced with fucking doggie style, or you already know how intense your orgasms can be, here are a few twists to make it even more sensational.

Rather than remaining on all fours (on her knees and hands), the woman remains on her knees but lowers her chest and slides her hips back slightly. This ‘face down’ position not only lets the man’s cock penetrate her deeper, but reach places inside of her pussy she didn’t know existed! By adjusting slightly and lowering the height of her hips, the man will actually be using his cock to ‘lift’ the woman. Between the increased depth, pressure and friction, you will both have such an intense orgasm it may be hard to even remain on your knees afterwards. If you own a Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo, or even just the Wedge itself and not the entire combo, you can take advantage of the additional support it offers to get even better penetration and produce more intense orgasms.

Another variation is having the woman lay down completely on her stomach. Although technically this isn’t actually doggie style, it is a rear entry (male-front-to-female-back) position, and it is a great position to start from, or an easy transition from the true ‘hands and knees’ doggie style.

Instead of the woman supporting herself on her hands and knees, she lies flat on her stomach, lifts her hips and spreads her legs slightly so the man can straddle her legs and enter her. Once he has penetrated her, the woman closes her legs and lowers her hips.

Why does the woman close her legs? Because it let's her squeeze the man's cock while they're fucking, and for women who have given birth, or who's vagina isn't as tight as they would like for it to be, closing her legs produces the sensation of her pussy being tighter, allowing for increased friction for both partners. In this position the woman can grind her hips into the sheets, the material of the couch, or the carpet (whatever the case may be) and help to stimulate her clit. The man can support himself on his arms in a ‘push-up’ position, or lay his body on hers. This option works well for a lot of couples when the woman has difficulty supporting the weight of her partner in the missionary position.

If you try this position with the man lying on the woman, if he spreads the woman’s ass cheeks first, he will be able to get even deeper inside of her, and it offers some stimulation to the woman’s ass as well. One last tip for this position is for the woman to lift her chest long enough for the man to reach around and grab her tits, then lower her chest onto his hands, allowing him to fondle them and play with her nipples while fucking. Like the variations on the missionary position, this is also a very relaxing position.

The Cowgirl and The Reverse Cowgirl.
The woman-on-top position, known as the cowgirl or woman-superior position, is a position many women prefer. Some women say this is the only position they can achieve an orgasm in. It’s understandable since the woman controls the pace and depth of penetration, making changes as necessary as she feels herself reaching an orgasm. The cowgirl also allows easy access to the woman’s tits, nipples and clit by herself, and her partner.

For even deeper penetration, many couples like the reverse cowgirl. Like the Cowgirl, the woman is on top in the Reverse Cowgirl, but she is rotated 180 degrees so she is facing the man’s feet. Although this prevents the man from having access to the woman’s tits or her clitoris, the depth a man’s cock can reach inside the woman’s pussy more than makes up for this fact, and the woman usually has easier access her clit easier than she does in the standard Cowgirl position.

Most couples that have tried these positions usually do so with the woman on her knees, but you can vary both of these positions if the woman supports herself on her feet instead. In both the Cowgirl and the Reverse Cowgirl positions, by staying on her feet rather than her knees, the woman has even more control, especially when it comes to lifting herself to the point just before the man’s cock slides out of her vagina, then sliding herself back down, taking advantage of the full length of the man’s cock. This in itself is an incredible turn on for both partners.

As intense as the Reverse Cowgirl is, especially if the woman supports herself on her feet, there is another slight twist you can add to make it even more sensational. Rather than the woman straddling the man’s legs, she can put her legs together between his, still supporting herself on her feet. This not only makes the woman’s pussy tighter, a benefit for both partners, but it also increases the stimulation on her G spot. Between the increased friction from her pussy being tighter, the increased stimulation on her G spot, all a woman has to do now is reach down and rub her clit to achieve an explosive orgasm!

Start (And Finish) with an Erotic Lap Dance.
A woman giving a man a lap dance at a titty bar is always erotic, so why not take advantage of this fact at home?
Although the actual position is pretty much the same as the Cowgirl, if you’re going to give a man a lap dance on the couch or in bed, to be truly effective, the man needs to be sitting in a reclining position rather than laying all the way down or sitting upright. This not only allows for easier penetration, but also puts you in control more by letting you lean in to let him lick your tits and suck your nipples some, then lean back and let him play with them with his hands. He will also have easy access to your clit when you lean back.

For a little variation, you can really drive him crazy by making him keep his hands off of you, just like they do at the titty bar. You can make him watch as you rub your tits, pinch and tug at your nipples, and rub your clit before you actually take his cock into your pussy, and afterwards while your fucking him! Another twist on the lap dance is to use a dining room chair instead of the couch or bed. Although the man won’t be able to recline as much, deep penetration is still possible since the furniture doesn’t restrict the woman’s legs, and her boobs are at the perfect height for him to lick them and suck her nipples. Part of the fun of a lap dance is the sexual tension it creates, so why not add to that sexual tension and perform a strip tease first? All it takes is an erotic outfit or lingerie, and a few sexy dance moves. Learning the moves to give an erotic lap dance is easy, but it's one of those things you have to see performed rather than being able to read about it.  If you’re not sure what moves to make, and you’re not comfortable going to a strip club for some pointers, the DVD  Nina Hartley's Guide To Stripping for Your Partner will teach you all the right moves (Available at: Passions Unchained Sex Toys  Adam & Eve Sex Toys  Hustler Hollywood  Angels Toy Store ). For most people, just letting your exhibitionist side out before having sex can be enough of a sexual stimulation for both you and your partner to have a very intense orgasm!

The Spoon.
Few positions can offer the sensation of snuggling and cuddling, and all around emotional satisfaction of the Spoon.

If you’re not already familiar with the spoon position, the woman lies on her side and the man snuggles up to her back. The man enters the woman from behind and holds her body close to his as they fuck slowly. Both the man and the woman have easy access to her tits and nipples, and access to her clit. Although the spoon position doesn’t offer the deep penetration or quite as easy access to the woman’s clit for the man that some of the other positions do, it does offer good G spot stimulation and anal stimulation for the woman’s butt cheeks. The cuddling sensation also provides a deeper emotional attachment for most couples, and sometimes a deeper emotional connection is all it takes to reach that incredible orgasm. If you enjoy anal sex, the spoon is obviously a great position since it offers easy access to the woman’s ass while still offering the cuddling!

Saving the Best for Last:

The Side Entry.
There's an old saying that goes 'There's nothing new under the sun', so no doubt many couples have already discovered this incredible position, but for some reason, you don't see it mentioned very often.

For couples that have tried every other position, and the woman just can't reach an orgasm, then the side entry may be the answer for you. The mans cock will be stimulating a new area of the woman's vagina, probing the inner walls at a unique angle that no other position can offer... Sideways!

The Side Entry also provides one of the deepest levels of penetration possible in a male superior position, and this position also creates a natural leverage that gives the man unbelievable thrusting power that isn't strenuous! But what's even better is the fact that there are two steps to this position, and before the man will be able to achieve the deep, hard thrusts, he will first have to spend some time with slow, gentle movements that will build the sexual tension and anticipation for both partners. Not only is the Side Entry position extremely satisfying, it is very comfortable for both the man and the woman, and or the anal aficionados, the man has full access to the woman's ass at all times, and he can easily insert his thumb or finger into the woman's asshole for constant anal stimulation. Let's get started:

To start, the woman lays on her side, like in the Spoon Position, but rather than bringing both of her legs up, she keeps the lower leg straight and lifts her top leg up almost to her breasts, bending her knee at slightly more than a 90 degree angle. (If she's on her left side, her right leg is her top leg, and visa versa). Once she's in this semi-fetal position, the man kneels and straddles the woman's straight leg so their bodies are at a 90 degree angle to one another. The man slides forward to penetrate the woman, and once his cock is inside of her, he sits on his ankles and clamps his legs tightly to the woman's body against her tummy and her ass, a position he needs to stay in for as long as possible. This may feel strange at first because this sitting position doesn't provide maximum stimulation of the G Spot by the man's cock, his legs being pressed tightly against the woman's body limits the access to her clit, and hard thrusts are not only impossible, it will cause his cock to pop out of the woman's pussy if he tries.

Because the Side Entry is almost like two positions in one. The sitting position forces the man to provide the slow, rhythmic strokes that provides the perfect stimulation to the inside of a woman's vagina that's important for her to achieve an orgasm. Also, it's very hard (and sometimes impossible) for most men to cum while sitting on their ankles, which is an added benefit for men that have a problem holding back for a long time before ejaculating. Although the man will feel a natural desire to rise to his knees the instant he penetrates the woman, he should hold the sitting position for as long as possible. This not only gives the woman the time she needs to achieve an orgasm, it increases the man's level of sexual tension and anticipation. Most men should be able to remain in this position comfortably for at least five or ten minutes, and be able to hold out that long as well. During this time, the woman can stimulate herself further by playing with her tits and tugging at her nipples, and if the man's thigh isn't providing enough stimulation to her clit, she can still slide her hand between her tummy and his leg to rub her clit with her fingers.

When the man finally does rise to his knees, that's when the leverage we mentioned earlier kicks in and the real fireworks start! He will be able to almost lift the woman's entire lower body off of the bed with only his hips, providing incredible pressure and friction to both the man's cock and the woman's pussy, and he will be able to start thrusting unbelievably hard and deep! Unless you're fingers are too busy clawing at the sheets or the headboard from the sudden rush you're feeling, this is when the woman can easily reach her clit and start rubbing it hard and fast to help intensify her orgasm. Both the man and the woman will feel a friction and pressure from the top of his cock against the side of her pelvic bone that is even more intense than the Doggie Style position, and if neither of you have ever experienced a sideways penetration before, the man's cock will not only be probing deep within the woman's vagina, it will be stimulating areas that were never stimulated before in a front or rear entry position, and these new sensations are enough to send most women, and men, over the edge into a frantic, uncontrollable climax!

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