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When it's an earth shattering,
scream-so-loud-they-hear-you-in-the-next-county orgasm you're after,
you don't have to resort to moves that would make most gymnasts envious.
While wild and crazy sex may keep your sex life exciting,
sometimes achieving those incredible orgasms is much easier if you stick
to the basics. In fact, sometimes the more simple the position is, the
harder a woman cums.
Why is this the case? There are a few reasons.
For one, performing
complicated acrobatics can distract you from the sex itself by putting
your focus on the positions you're trying to maneuver into, or out of.
Complicated positions can also put added muscle and back strain on one
or both partners, resulting in exhaustion from the workout rather than
from the orgasm. You start thinking about the pain you're feeling rather
than the pleasurable sensations you're having during sex.
Another reason
is you're more relaxed in a simple sex position. While it may sound like
and oxymoron to be relaxed while having an orgasm, when you're body is
in a relaxed position, you can go longer without becoming fatigued.
Having sex can be a pretty strenuous workout, even for couples that are
in shape and exercise on a regular basis, so stepping back and taking a
more relaxed approach will let you pay more attention to the sex you're
having, and the pleasure you're feeling, and this can result in more
intense, easier to achieve orgasms for both men and women.
A few basics:
Before we get into anything else, it's a
good idea to touch on a few of the basics, and maybe there's one or two
things we'll mention that you hadn't thought of before.
Communication isn't an option.
First and foremost, if you're having trouble achieving an orgasm, you
have to let your partner know what's going on. Explain that it's not
him, you just can't seem to cum when you're having sex, and you need him
to help you by trying some different techniques. Couples that can't
communicate their sexual desires, and sexual problems with one another
are more prone to having less sexual satisfaction than the ones that can
talk openly with one another, so if just the thought of talking to your
lover about this is an issue, then you've just discovered your problem
achieving an orgasm, and it might be a good idea to look into some sex
counseling.
Get your mind INTO the gutter.
Focus on the things that turn you on and forget about everything else
except the pleasure of having sex. This may sound a bit obvious, but a
lot of people, men as well as women, have a hard time putting the day's
events on hold mentally, and it can be the reason some women have never
been able to achieve an orgasm.
Don't rush things.
Sometimes a 'quickie' is fun, and the intensity of a fast and furious
fuck is enough to bring a lot of women's pussies to a shuddering
explosion. If this isn't the case, then foreplay becomes even more
important.
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If you want to bring
her to an orgasm, spend
some time masturbating her before intercourse. |
Start with a sensual massage or masturbating before
intercourse. Since women usually take longer to reach the point of full
sexual arousal than men, it's helpful for the woman to start first by
masturbating for a while to get her juices flowing. The man can join in
the fun, or let him sit back and enjoy the show. This can be a
major turn on for both the man and the woman since it satisfies the man's
voyeuristic desires, and the woman's exhibitionist desires, both of
which are very strong mental triggers for an intense orgasm later. For
more in depth information on the importance of foreplay, read the
section on 'Emotional Orgasms.'
Use Your PC Muscles.
The PC (pubococcygeus) muscles have been demonstrated to be a crucial
component to having multiple orgasms, so when a woman feels she is close
to orgasm, she needs to tighten and relax her Kegels. This can be enough
to bring on an intense orgasm.
Don't let your thoughts about cumming keep you from it.
Many women that have a hard time reaching an orgasm do so because
they start thinking 'I'm not going to cum' and instantly try to 'will' it
mentally. Don't try to 'think' your way to an orgasm, but rather keep
your mind as clear as you can and just let yourself enjoy the pleasure
you're body is receiving. If you start thinking you're not going to cum,
start playing with your tits and your nipples. This can help you stay
focused on the physical pleasure and distract you from the 'I'm not
going to cum' train of thought.
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Stimulating the
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Don't switch positions.
Switching positions during sex can be fun, but it can also be
detrimental to achieving an orgasm. If the position you're in is
stimulating you and giving you pleasure, stay in that position. If it's
not, then switch to your favorite position and stay in it until you cum.
MASTURBATE, MASTURBATE,
MASTURBATE!!!
Many women can't achieve an orgasm during sex, but can when they
masturbate. The basic reason is that during intercourse, there is
little to no stimulation on the clitoris. Masturbating also helps
your body learn how to achieve an orgasm, and stimulating your clit
during sex can help you achieve that elusive orgasm, or multiple
orgasms.
For more information on
masturbating and masturbating during sex, see the section on
Masturbation at PassionsUnchained.com.
OK, let's get started:
Variations
on the Missionary Position.
We'll start with what is probably the most well known, and least
respected position, and that is the Missionary position. Before
disregarding this one and moving on to other positions, keep in mind the
fact the Missionary position is a comfortable position, it allows for a
very pleasant visual stimulation, and is a very romantic position since
both partners are face to face. But the true missionary position with
the woman's legs straight and spread and man's legs
straight usually isn’t conducive to intense orgasms for either the man
or the woman. The main reasons are because it doesn’t allow for forceful thrusting, deep
penetration or intense clitoral stimulation.
Small variations, such as
the woman simply bending her knees (thus spreading her legs more), or the
man moving to his knees and the woman raising her legs and bending her
knees offers better access to the woman’s pussy, allows the man to
thrust harder and
penetrate
deeper. This also gives them both access to her clit.
Another tip is for the
woman to place a sex wedge, such as a Liberator Wedge Combo under her lower back, then bend
her knees and bring her legs back toward her shoulders. This allows for
even harder thrusting by the man and much deeper penetration than with
the woman flat on her back.
Another
benefit is the fact it’s possible for the man’s cock to stimulate a
woman’s G spot more directly since he’s now pushing in a more upward motion in
relation to the woman’s vagina.
If you don't own a
Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo, you can stack two or
three firm pillows up, but this won't be as effective since it doesn't
offer the proper angle or the same amount of support as a wedge designed
for sex. Pillows will also force the
woman to bend at the waist rather than keeping her body straight, and
the pillows may slide apart, interrupting the action which will have a
negative affect on your goal of achieving a more intense orgasm. Unlike
a pillow, which isn't designed for having sex on, the
Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo
(Available
at:
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Sex Toys
Hustler Hollywood
Angels Toy Store )
was designed
specifically for having sex by creating the perfect angles for better
penetration, and it's a product we recommend all couples invest in,
whether or not you're having problems achieving intense or multiple
orgasms.
While using the Combo can be enough to provide an incredible orgasm,
there’s still more that you can do. When the woman feels herself
reaching an orgasm, she can put her legs down, putting her body in an
arch shape, but with her upper body supported by the Ramp. The man then
leans forward, lifting his hips upward and putting pressure on her clit.
The man now pushes his pelvis against the woman's and ‘rocks’ against
her rather than thrusting, making sure to keep friction on the woman’s
clitoris. This produces a slow, intense stimulation on the woman’s clit
that can result in an orgasm the likes of which you’ve never experienced
before, and have you cumming in waves! But don’t think this move is only
for the woman’s benefit. The man cumming by rocking against the woman
rather than thrusting forces him to use his own pelvic and abdominal
muscles in a different way than cumming when he's thrusting, and this is
enough to make his orgasm just as intense! One more benefit to this is
the resulting ‘emotional rush’ and deep feelings of intimacy. While a
man slamming into a woman hard while fucking is intense, it does lack
some intimacy. Cumming by rocking rather than thrusting is more intimate
than a jack hammer pounding.
One last variation on the Missionary is
having the woman keep her legs together and the man straddle them. This
slight variation allows the man to use his legs for better leverage so
he can thrust harder. The woman can squeeze her legs together, making
her pussy tighter and increasing the amount of friction, and it's
actually easier for the man to provide stimulation on the woman's clit
by keeping pressure on it with his pelvis. Definitely one to try!
Kitchen Table Sex.
Unless you have one of those tall kitchen tables that requires bar
stools to eat at, your kitchen table can be used for much more
entertaining purposes than eating dinner. Having sex on the kitchen
table is technically another variation on the good ol' Missionary
Position. While this may be a loose interpretation of what qualifies as
the Missionary, the woman is on her back with the male taking the
superior position. Of course, what separates it from any other
variation on the Missionary is the fact the man is standing. Also, the
woman's ass needs to be at the edge of the table, so she can't keep her
legs straight. She will need to support them on the edge of the table,
on the man's shoulders, or she'll have to use her arms to hold them up.
With the woman laying on her back on the kitchen table with her ass near
the edge, she is usually at the perfect height for most men to stand
between her legs and penetrate her easily.
So why fuck on the kitchen table? If you’re asking that question, then
you haven’t tried it yet.
Just the location itself can provide ‘kinky’
emotions to offer a more intense orgasm, but there are a couple of other
advantages. Since the woman is lying down and the man is standing, his
cock is entering her at a ninety degree angle, which puts direct
pressure on the G Spot and provides penetration into new areas of the
pussy. Additionally, the woman’s clit is more easily accessible by the
man in this position than in any other position. The woman has easy
access to her clit, her tits, and her nipples as well, so don't hesitate
to play with them, which is an added benefit and will excite the man
even more.
One more benefit to this position which can provide a more
intense orgasm for the woman is the fact the she can increase her pelvic
tension by clenching and lifting her ass. Not only does this feel good,
it increases the blood flow to the pelvic region, which increases the
intensity of her orgasm. If your kitchen table is too tall, too small,
or just isn't strong enough to handle having sex on, some options are
using the
Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo shown above and placing
it on the edge of your bed or changing the configuration and create a
'Ramp' up to the arm of your couch.
Doggie
Style and Some Variations.
If you haven’t had sex doggie style yet, TRY IT! Just the emotional ‘bad
girl’ benefits can be a sexual rush, and the simple change in the
direction of the man’s cock entering the vagina is enough to provide
many women with an orgasm she never thought possible before!
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Doggie Style is
one of the most popular positions for sex, and when the woman
leans forward and rests on her chest rather than on her arms,
deeper penetration is possible, plus the woman's hands are free
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Using solid or
inflatable furniture designed for sex creates more angles for
deeper penetration, and is more comfortable for both partners.
This can allow a man to last longer before ejaculation and give
the woman the time she needs to achieve an orgasm... or multiple
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Inflatable and solid construction sex furniture is available at:
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If you’re
already experienced with fucking doggie style, or you already know how
intense your orgasms can be, here are a few twists to make it even
more sensational.
Rather than remaining on all fours (on her knees and hands), the woman
remains on her knees but lowers her chest and slides her hips back
slightly. This ‘face down’ position not only lets the man’s cock
penetrate her deeper, but reach places inside of her pussy she didn’t
know existed! By adjusting slightly and lowering the height of her hips,
the man will actually be using his cock to ‘lift’ the woman. Between the
increased depth, pressure and friction, you will both have such an
intense orgasm it may be hard to even remain on your knees afterwards.
If you own a
Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo, or even just the
Wedge itself and not the entire combo, you can take advantage of the
additional support it offers to get even better penetration and produce
more intense orgasms.
Another variation is having the woman lay down completely on her
stomach. Although technically this isn’t actually doggie style, it is a
rear entry (male-front-to-female-back) position, and it is a great
position to start from, or an easy transition from the true ‘hands and
knees’ doggie style.
Instead of the woman supporting herself on her
hands and knees, she lies flat on her stomach, lifts her hips and
spreads her legs slightly so the man can straddle her legs and enter
her. Once he has penetrated her, the woman closes her legs and lowers
her hips.
Why does the woman close her legs? Because it let's her
squeeze the man's cock while they're fucking, and for women who have
given birth, or who's vagina isn't as tight as they would like for it to
be, closing her legs produces the sensation of her pussy being tighter,
allowing for increased friction for both partners. In this position the
woman can grind her hips into the sheets, the material of the couch, or
the carpet (whatever the case may be) and help to stimulate her clit. The man
can support himself on his arms in a ‘push-up’ position, or lay his body
on hers. This option works well for a lot of couples when the woman has
difficulty supporting the weight of her partner in the missionary
position.
If you try this position with the man lying on the woman, if
he spreads the woman’s ass cheeks first, he will be able to get even
deeper inside of her, and it offers some stimulation to the woman’s ass
as well. One last tip for this position is for the woman to lift her
chest long enough for the man to reach around and grab her tits, then
lower her chest onto his hands, allowing him to fondle them and play
with her nipples while fucking. Like the variations on the missionary
position, this is also a very relaxing position.
The
Cowgirl and The Reverse Cowgirl.
The woman-on-top position, known as the cowgirl or woman-superior
position, is a position many women prefer. Some women say this is the
only position they can achieve an orgasm in. It’s understandable since
the woman controls the pace and depth of penetration, making changes as
necessary as she feels herself reaching an orgasm. The cowgirl also
allows easy access to the woman’s tits, nipples and clit by herself, and
her partner.
For even deeper penetration, many couples like the reverse cowgirl. Like
the Cowgirl, the woman is on top in the Reverse Cowgirl, but she is
rotated 180 degrees so she is facing the man’s feet. Although this
prevents the man from having access to the woman’s tits or her clitoris,
the depth a man’s cock can reach inside the woman’s pussy more than
makes up for this fact, and the woman usually has easier access her clit
easier than she does in the standard Cowgirl position.
Most couples that have tried these positions usually do so with the
woman on her knees, but you can vary both of these positions if the
woman supports herself on her feet instead. In both the Cowgirl and the
Reverse Cowgirl positions, by staying on her feet rather than her knees,
the woman has even more control, especially when it comes to lifting
herself to the point just before the man’s cock slides out of her
vagina, then sliding herself back down, taking advantage of the full
length of the man’s cock. This in itself is an incredible turn on for
both partners.
As intense as the Reverse Cowgirl is, especially if the woman supports
herself on her feet, there is another slight twist you can add to make
it even more sensational. Rather than the woman straddling the man’s
legs, she can put her legs together between his, still supporting
herself on her feet. This not only makes the woman’s pussy tighter, a
benefit for both partners, but it also increases the stimulation on her
G spot. Between the increased friction from her pussy being tighter, the
increased stimulation on her G spot, all a woman has to do now is reach
down and rub her clit to achieve an explosive orgasm!
Start
(And Finish) with an Erotic Lap Dance.
A woman giving a man a lap dance at a titty bar is always erotic, so why
not take advantage of this fact at home?
Although the actual position is pretty much the same as the Cowgirl, if
you’re going to give a man a lap dance on the couch or in bed, to be
truly effective, the man needs to be sitting in a reclining position
rather than laying all the way down or sitting upright. This not only
allows for easier penetration, but also puts you in control more by
letting you lean in to let him lick your tits and suck your nipples
some, then lean back and let him play with them with his hands. He will
also have easy access to your clit when you lean back.
For a little variation, you can really drive him crazy by making him
keep his hands off of you, just like they do at the titty bar. You can
make him watch as you rub your tits, pinch and tug at your nipples, and
rub your clit before you actually take his cock into your pussy, and
afterwards while your fucking him! Another twist on the lap dance is to
use a dining room chair instead of the couch or bed. Although the man
won’t be able to recline as much, deep penetration is still possible
since the furniture doesn’t restrict the woman’s legs, and her boobs are
at the perfect height for him to lick them and suck her nipples. Part of
the fun of a lap dance is the sexual tension it creates, so why not add
to that sexual tension and perform a strip tease first? All it takes is
an erotic outfit or lingerie, and a few sexy dance moves. Learning the
moves to give an erotic lap dance is easy, but it's one of those things
you have to see performed rather than being able to read about it. If
you’re not sure what moves to make, and you’re not comfortable going to
a strip club for some pointers, the DVD
Nina Hartley's Guide To Stripping for Your Partner will
teach you all the right moves (Available
at:
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Adam & Eve
Sex Toys
Hustler Hollywood
Angels Toy Store ). For most
people, just letting your exhibitionist side out before having sex can
be enough of a sexual stimulation for both you and your partner to have
a very intense orgasm!
The
Spoon.
Few positions can offer the sensation of snuggling and cuddling, and all
around emotional satisfaction of the Spoon.
If you’re not already familiar with the spoon position, the woman lies
on her side and the man snuggles up to her back. The man enters the
woman from behind and holds her body close to his as they fuck slowly.
Both the man and the woman have easy access to her tits and nipples, and
access to her clit. Although the spoon position doesn’t offer the deep
penetration or quite as easy access to the woman’s clit for the man that
some of the other positions do, it does offer good G spot stimulation
and anal stimulation for the woman’s butt cheeks. The cuddling sensation
also provides a deeper emotional attachment for most couples, and
sometimes a deeper emotional connection is all it takes to reach that
incredible orgasm. If you enjoy anal sex, the spoon is obviously a great
position since it offers easy access to the woman’s ass while still
offering the cuddling!
Saving the Best for Last:
The Side Entry.
There's an old saying that goes 'There's nothing new under the sun', so
no doubt many couples have already discovered this incredible position,
but for some reason, you don't see it mentioned very often.
For couples that have tried every other
position, and the woman just can't reach an orgasm, then the side entry
may be the answer for you. The mans cock will be stimulating a new area
of the woman's vagina, probing the inner walls at a unique angle that no
other position can offer... Sideways!
The Side Entry also provides one of the deepest levels of penetration
possible in a male superior position, and this position also creates a
natural leverage that gives the man unbelievable thrusting power that
isn't strenuous! But what's even better is the fact that there are two
steps to this position, and before the man will be able to achieve the
deep, hard thrusts, he will first have to spend some time with slow,
gentle movements that will build the sexual tension and anticipation for
both partners. Not only is the Side Entry position extremely satisfying,
it is very comfortable for both the man and the woman, and or the anal
aficionados, the man has full access to the woman's ass at all times,
and he can easily insert his thumb or finger into the woman's asshole
for constant anal stimulation. Let's get started:
To start, the woman lays on her side,
like in the Spoon Position, but rather than bringing both of her legs
up, she keeps the lower leg straight and lifts her top leg up almost to
her breasts, bending her knee at slightly more than a 90 degree angle.
(If she's on her left side, her right leg is her top leg, and visa
versa). Once she's in this semi-fetal position, the man kneels and
straddles the woman's straight leg so their bodies are at a 90 degree
angle to one another. The man slides forward to penetrate the woman, and
once his cock is inside of her, he sits on his ankles and clamps his
legs tightly to the woman's body against her tummy and her ass, a
position he needs to stay in for as long as possible. This may feel
strange at first because this sitting position doesn't provide maximum
stimulation of the G Spot by the man's cock, his legs being pressed
tightly against the woman's body limits the access to her clit, and hard
thrusts are not only impossible, it will cause his cock to pop out of
the woman's pussy if he tries.
So with with all these seemingly
negative aspects, why does the man need to stay sitting on his ankles?
Because the Side Entry is almost like two
positions in one. The sitting position forces the man to provide the
slow, rhythmic strokes that provides the perfect stimulation to the
inside of a woman's vagina that's important for her to achieve an
orgasm. Also, it's very hard (and sometimes impossible) for most men to
cum while sitting on their ankles, which is an added benefit for men
that have a problem holding back for a long time before ejaculating.
Although the man will feel a natural desire to rise to his knees the
instant he penetrates the woman, he should hold the sitting position for
as long as possible. This not only gives the woman the time she needs to
achieve an orgasm, it increases the man's level of sexual tension and
anticipation. Most men should be able to remain in this position
comfortably for at least five or ten minutes, and be able to hold out
that long as well. During this time, the woman can stimulate herself
further by playing with her tits and tugging at her nipples, and if the
man's thigh isn't providing enough stimulation to her clit, she can
still slide her hand between her tummy and his leg to rub her clit with
her fingers.
When the man finally does rise to his knees, that's when the leverage we
mentioned earlier kicks in and the real fireworks start! He will be able
to almost lift the woman's entire lower body off of the bed with only
his hips, providing incredible pressure and friction to both the man's
cock and the woman's pussy, and he will be able to start thrusting
unbelievably hard and deep! Unless you're fingers are too busy clawing
at the sheets or the headboard from the sudden rush you're feeling, this
is when the woman can easily reach her clit and start rubbing it hard
and fast to help intensify her orgasm. Both the man and the woman will
feel a friction and pressure from the top of his cock against the side
of her pelvic bone that is even more intense than the Doggie Style
position, and if neither of you have ever experienced a sideways
penetration before, the man's cock will not only be probing deep within
the woman's vagina, it will be stimulating areas that were never
stimulated before in a front or rear entry position, and these new
sensations are enough to send most women, and men, over the edge into a
frantic, uncontrollable climax!
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Looking for even more ways to
improve your sex life? We recommend buying the
Liberator Ramp & Wedge Combo, and the following
How-To Adult Movies:
The Better Sex Guide to the Kama Sutra,
Nina Hartley's Guide To G-Spot Sex,
Tantric Guide Sexual Potency, and
Unlocking the Secrets of the G-Spot: The Ultimate O.
(Available
at:
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