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New Things to Try
If your relationship is going fine,
and you just want to spice things up a little, here are some
suggestions.
If your relationship is going fine, the
rule about not surprising your lover mentioned in the article 'Planning
a Romantic Evening or Weekend Getaway' does not apply here. Just be
prepared for the fact that some people may be uncomfortable in many
of the situations below, and may reject your advances, especially in
unconventional surroundings, so use caution and common sense, and if
your partner rejects one idea, try a different one! If you are looking
for more erotic sex play, and your current partner ABSOLUTELY REFUSES
to try ANYTHING NEW, try having them read this section them self.
Sometimes that approach can make a big difference. If that doesn't
work.... maybe it's time to move on and you need to check out the ADULT DATING section at
PassionsUnchained.com!
1) Switch your love making habits:
If your love making is usually wild and exotic, and the gymnastics you
and your lover perform would qualify you for a gold medal in the
Olympics, try an evening of slow, gentle, tender love making. On the
flip side, if your love making is usually passionate and tender, get
wild and try some of the gymnastics.
2) Try another location: If you normally make love in one or two
particular rooms, such as the bedroom or living room, try moving to the
kitchen or bathroom. If you have a yard, swimming pool, spa, or deck
with enough privacy, move your love making outdoors. If you have a
garage, use it for more than parking your car in.
3) Use the furniture to your advantage: Items like a home gym
usually have a narrow bench that will allow for deep penetration in the
female superior position (woman on top). The arms of some chairs or
couches will work too. Look at your furniture from a sexual perspective
and see if you can think of ways to take advantage of them for new
positions. If your furnishings aren't 'sexually friendly', there are
products such as the Liberator Wedge or Combo or the Liberator Ramp &
Wedge Combo. These products are specifically designed for having sex,
and will allow you and your lover to explore new positions and
incredible levels of control and penetration. They also take up less
room than a full home gym, and don't cost as much.
4) Leave the house: Go for a drive to a remote location, even if
it takes a few hours to get to one. Once there, make love in the car, or
better yet, outside of the car. Get out and make love on the hood or
trunk of your car. Go into the woods and make love leaning against a
tree, or into a field and make love on the grass. Find a construction
site that doesn't have a security guard. Go to the beach or river and
find a secluded place to make love outside and in new surroundings.
5) Try a not-so-remote location: Some people get sexually aroused
at the thought of getting caught by others when having sex. If this is
you, or your lover, try finding a location where there may be a risk of
someone seeing you, or even catching you in the act. Whether it's in a
bathroom stall, an alley, or an elevator, you will have to be creative
with this one, and be warned that you may get arrested in some cities,
counties, or states if you are caught by the police.
6) Satisfy your lover while driving: Performing oral sex or
masturbating your lover while they are driving is more common than you
may think. Although you may have to be a bit of a contortionist to deal
with the console on some cars, and the person behind the wheel will have
their driving skills put to the test, satisfying your lover on the road
can result in an extremely intense orgasm. The open road is safer, and
more satisfying than trying this in a stop and go situation, and a man
may not be able to gain enough access to a woman to satisfy her orally.
Again, be warned that if you are caught, many states take a dim view of
this practice.
7)
Tease your lover in public: An alternative to actually having sex in
public is teasing your lover in public. A booth in a restaurant with
long table cloths is a great place for your hands to wander to your
lover's lap, or for performing oral sex on your partner by 'dropping' a
fork and sliding under the table to retrieve it.
Women should wear a short skirt or dress with either no panties, or
crotchless panties. Men's pants should be loose enough to allow them to
be unzipped without having to move around much, with either no underwear
or loose boxers. Another possibility is to take advantage of the many
wireless vibrators and vibrating underwear available. Imagine you and
your lover being in public, your lover is wearing the vibrating
underwear, or the wireless vibrator is in place, and you have the
remote control, You are in complete control of when it's off or on,
how intense the vibrations are, how long it will last before you decide
to turn it off, when and where you will turn it back on, and whether or
not you offer your lover any kind of warning when you do turn it back
on!
8a) Men: Ambush her at an unexpected time: If your wife or
girlfriend is doing the dishes, walk up behind her and start rubbing on
her. Rather than moving to another location, bend her over at the sink
and make love to her while standing behind her. You can vary this in
many ways by either undressing her completely, or only pulling down her
pants/shorts/skirt to her ankles. If she doesn't wear a bra around the
house, get your hands in the soapy water and rub her breasts either
through her top, or by reaching under it. If she does wear a bra, lift
it up enough to expose her breasts without removing it. Another
alternative is to lay her on the kitchen counter or island if either are
large enough. Obviously, timing is important here. Trying this while
she's cooking dinner over a hot stove is not an opportune moment.
8b) Women: Ambush him at an unexpected time: If your man does the
dishes, then take the same advantage as mentioned above. Since sex is
not an option while you're standing behind him, you will have to turn
around or switch positions at some point, but not before getting your
hands into the soapy water and fondling his genitals for a while. Other
good ambush locations are while your lover is bending over the washing
machine or clothes dryer, in the bathroom when they are at the sink, in
the shower, outside while working in the garden (provided there is
enough privacy from the neighbors), or while he or she is making the
bed. If your partner does their own oil changes on the car in the
garage, this gives you the opportunity for a very pleasurable, very
slippery ambush. You can even set this one up by asking him, or her, to
change your oil for you. Used motor oil may be dirty, but rubbing it all
over your lovers naked body before having sex on the garage floor is
well worth the extra time it's going to take washing it off later. Since
your lover should already be in work clothes, make sure you don't wear
anything you don't care about getting permanently stained, and probably
having to throw away. You're the one that knows your surroundings, so
take the initiative and be creative. Find the place & time to please
your lover when they least expect it.
9) Put on a costume: Does your partner get home from work after
you? Why not be standing in the kitchen making dinner in the nude, or
better yet, wearing a skimpy French Maid costume (for women), or a
G-String or silk boxers (for men)? You can either use the opportunity to
put dinner on hold, or as an introduction to surprise your partner with
an intimate evening.
If you get home after your partner, other alternatives are to find an
opportunity when your partner is out of the house for a short time. You
can even set up the scenario by asking them to go to the store for a
loaf of bread or something.
If you don't live together, invite your lover over. When they arrive,
greet them at the door wearing your costume. A nice switch to this is
inviting yourself to your lovers home, and have your costume on under a
jacket.
If you do live together, and your partner gets home before you, another
option is to stop on your way home and change into your costume.
You can find a wide variety of costumes at
Passions Unchained Sex Toys, Adam & Eve,
Hustler Hollywood, and
Angels Toy Store.
A word of caution here. Although walking in and surprising your lover
wearing only a leather G-String may be effective, whether it's at your
place or theirs, there's always the risk that someone stopped by for a
visit before you arrived. Revealing your 'surprise' and finding your
girlfriend's younger sister staring at you might not have the results
you had hoped for. Then again... it might.
10) Threesomes: If you and your lover have decided to include a
third party in your relationship, having that person waiting with you
when your lover arrives will definitely be one of the nicest surprises
you have ever given your lover. Although most people seem to think a
threesome is only a man's fantasy come true, you would be surprised at
the number of women that enjoy a third party as well, whether the third
party is a male or female. More women are finding a bi-sexual experience
with their lover to be quite pleasing, as a woman not only knows what
another woman enjoys, but a second woman can 'coach' the male and teach
him what his partner really enjoys. A couple of tips (and possible
warnings if this your first time): If you and the third person are going
to be waiting for your lover in bed, make sure they don't see you
through a window before they walk in. This could create the wrong
impression that you are having an affair, especially if the third party
is the opposite sex as you are. Surprising your lover with a threesome
can backfire if the third party is someone you like, such as a sibling
or best friend, but make sure it's someone your lover likes, is
physically attracted to as well, and not just someone they tolerate for
your sake.
If you and your partner are interested in a threesome, but do not know a
third party that is, and you do not wish to ask any of your friends or
relatives, try some of the Sex & Dating sites we have listed here. There are
quite a few individuals looking for couples
for a threesome, couples looking for an individual for a threesome, and
even couples looking for other couples for a four way. The adult dating sites are
free to join, so you have nothing to
lose... except maybe a boring sex life!
11) Play out a fantasy: Playing out fantasies is a little more
involved than just wearing a costume since it requires both parties to
be involved in the role playing, but it has long been a favorite for
many couples. Some of the more popular are Cowboy and Indian, Police
Officer and Escaped Convict, French Maid and Butler, Employee and
Employer, Naughty School Girl and Teacher or Principal, Pilot and
Stewardess, Harem Girl and Sheik, Cave Man and Cave Woman, Cheerleader
and Football Player, Naughty Nurse and Patient or Doctor, or even
Dracula and a helpless maiden. The possibilities are endless. Use your
imagination and create fantasies that excite you personally. With the
wide variety of costumes
available at
Passions Unchained Sex Toys, Adam & Eve,
Hustler Hollywood, and
Angels Toy Store, you can mix and match to create
almost anything you can think of.
12) Combine dress up and a threesome: If you're into threesomes,
and role playing fantasies, what better way to surprise your lover than
have him or her come home to find you and a partner waiting in sexy
outfit. As an example, two women could dress in school girl outfits, and
when the male comes home, he could be informed that his lady and her
friend have been naughty, and need the teacher to keep them after class
to punish them.
12a)
Combine dress up and B&D: If you and your lover enjoy bondage, a
very erotic greeting for your lover is to come home and find you bound,
either to the bed, or in another fashion. Although you may have to get
some assistance depending on the type of restraints you use, if you're
not into threesomes, you can always ask a friend to tie you up and leave
just before your partner arrives.
12b) Combine dress up, B&D, and a threesome: One of the most
erotic fantasies for some men would be to come home and find their lover
and another person dressed in B&D gear, one of the two being the
dominant, the other being the bound and helpless slave. Or, both waiting
parties could be slaves, and the surprised lover could be offered the
role of the dominant individual. It all depends on your personal
choices.
13) Give your lover a massage: As simple as this sounds, a slow,
sensual, and erotic full body massage is a great for either foreplay,
after play, or down time between the action. You can use a variety of
different massage oils, including ones that create a warming sensation
as they are rubbed into the skin. Start with your lover laying face
down, but be sure to include every inch of your lover's body, from the
shoulders to the feet. Vary your style from firm pressure with the palms
of your hands to long, gentle strokes with your finger tips. As things
heat up, concentrate on the buttocks more. From there, you can either
move to the genitals from behind, position your lover onto all fours, or
roll them onto their back. Both "The
Joy Of Erotic Massage" and "Nina's
Guide To Erotic Massage" provide excellent
information and tips for giving your partner a truly erotic massage.
For more ideas and other tips,
we recommend the books "Tantric
Guide Sexual Potency" and "The
Better Sex Guide to the Kama Sutra" to help
increase your erotic pleasure, and your partner's! These and other
How-To and Instructional DVDs are available at
Passions Unchained Sex Toys, Adam & Eve,
Hustler Hollywood, and
Angels Toy Store.
14) Put in an adult DVD: Some people will tell you in public the
thought of pornography disgusts them, but will get extremely turned on
watching a XXX movie in private. Whether the thought of watching a XXX
movie in your own home offends you or not, the fact is, a lot of people
have a bit of voyeurism in them, and will become sexually aroused
watching other people have sex. This is not an exclusively male trait.
For those of you that may still be unaware of it, women like sex too,
and they get sexually stimulated watching adult movies! If you and your
lover have never tried watching a XXX movie together, then give it a
shot. There are hundreds of adult DVDs available at
Passions Unchained Sex Toys, Adam & Eve,
Hustler Hollywood, and
Angels Toy Store.
15) Watch the movie while you have sex: This isn't just for a
man's satisfaction. Many women have incredible orgasms from the visual
stimulation they receive from watching a XXX movie while having sex.
While this is not true for all women, you won't know if it works for you
until you try it. Unless your television is mounted above the bed, the
best position for this is obviously doggy style, with both parties
facing the TV.
16) Watch yourselves having sex: It can be very erotic to watch
yourself and your partner making love. Although it can be a little
tricky trying to get the right angles to make a movie of your own love
making, the results are usually satisfying. Just remember that the
angles and positions porn stars use are not for their own satisfaction,
but for the camera to capture the scenes, so don't expect a movie of
your own love making sessions to mimic those of an adult movie. Even if
you have a friend shooting the movie for you, the results will not be
the same as a porno flick unless you are prepared to be interrupted by
taking direction, and prepared for some less than satisfying positions
to allow for better film shots.
17) Masturbation: Sex doesn't always have to mean intercourse.
One of the most loving things you can do for your lover is masturbate
them. Whether the favor is returned afterwards or not, or you masturbate
one another simultaneously, the feelings created, both physical and
emotional, are extremely satisfying. Another advantage to masturbating
your lover is the various positions available. You can either face your
lover, sit next to them, have them kneel down, have them get on their
hands and knees, have them on their knees with their chest on the floor,
or stand behind them (also known as a reach-around). You can use your
hand, use a sex toy, or switch back and forth. One of the most enjoyable
aspects is the fact that the person doing the masturbating will get to
enjoy the full visual stimulation of their lover's body. Another benefit
is the emotional satisfaction you receive brining your lover to an
orgasm while concentrating solely on their pleasure. Let's face it,
while you're having sex, you may be able to concentrate on your partner
most of the time, but as you reach the point of orgasm, your own
feelings of pleasure take over, and make it almost impossible to devote
all of your attention on your lover.
18) Serve dinner on your body: Covering your naked body with
different foods and presenting yourself to you lover as a delicacy will
definitely create some positive sexual response. Although common items
are various sliced fruits, such as strawberries, kiwis, and bananas, you
can get creative by adding some dipping sauce, such as honey, some non
dairy whipped topping (remember, real whip cream sours), French onion
dip (use it sparingly as the sour cream is a dairy product), even
crackers and sliced cheeses or summer sausage. A good 'serving
suggestion' would be on a coffee table in the living room with an adult
movie on the TV. Not only will you be providing your lover with sexual
stimulation, so will the show on TV.
Whatever you choose, you will become a delectable dish for your lover to
enjoy.
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