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The Anal Sex Guide for the Beginner
A Short, Easy to Remember set of Tips & Instructions to Help You get started having Painless Anal Sex.

Do you have a ‘virgin ass,’ but want to learn how to have anal sex so your partner can
be like Captain Kirk and “Boldly Go Where No Man Has Gone Before" (Sorry, we couldn’t resist)

Have you tried Anal Sex and Refused to Try it Again Because it was Painful?

First and Foremost, Anal Sex is Not Suppose to Hurt,
Unfortunately, Many Women, & Men, don’t Know How to Teach Themselves the Right Way to Properly Accept an Object
Penetrating Their Ass. This Typically Results in Their First Time Causing Pain, & Usually a Refusal to Try it a Second Time.

Whether you're still an Anal Virgin, or You're Experienced but Not Enjoying Anal Sex as Much as You Should Be, we have a Lot of Tips and
Step-By-Step Instructions to Help Make Anal Sex Pleasurable, Painless, and hopefully Prevent Your First Anal Sex Experience From Being Your Last.

A decade ago, blowjobs were what people whispered about. After that, threesomes became the naughty thing to do. Every so often, a once scandalous sex taboo starts making its way toward the commonplace. Now the Taboo Making its way into One Bedroom after Another is Anal Sex.

Talking about anal sex use to be something that was done only in private, and then usually in silent whispers because of its forbidden status, and anal sex is still a taboo for many people!

Although some people still associate anal sex with homosexual activity, the male penetration of the female ass for the pleasure of anal sex has been happening since the dawn of time, but the difference now is that women are actively learning how to enjoy it and have fun with it.
According to the Centers for Disease Control’s (CDC) National Survey of Family Growth, anal sex is rapidly becoming a regular feature of heterosexual couples’ sexual activities. The survey showed that 38.2 percent of men between 20 and 39 and 32.6 percent of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal sex. Compare that with the CDC’s 1992 National Health and Social Life survey, which found that only 25.6 percent of men 18 to 59 and 20.4 percent of women 18 to 59 indulged in it. That's more than a 12% increase for both men and women in the last 15 years!  Research also demonstrates curiosity about anal sex is on the rise.

So what’s the big attraction?
Many men and women who have broken the taboo of anal sex and ventured into the world of anal penetration have found that anal sex is not only a thrilling addition to their sexual menu, they have also discovered the joys of an anal orgasm. Obviously this does not mean an orgasm originating from inside of the ass, but a vaginal and penile orgasm brought on from the stimulation of anal penetration. The anus and the surrounding area have nerves that link to the clitoris, pelvis and vulva in women, so the whole area is extremely sensitive to sexual stimulation.
The physical tightness of the sphincter is another attraction. Not only does the man enjoy the increased friction on his cock during anal sex, women say they enjoy the tight feeling of their ass being penetrated as well. For both men and women, there are also a number of emotionally satisfying aspects of anal sex.
Besides the excitement of breaking the taboo of anal sex, one of the biggest emotional satisfactions that anal sex offers is the complete raunchiness of it. Anal sex gives a woman the feeling of being a ‘naughty girl,' or as one woman described it, "the chance to be a nasty little slut for my husband only." This has been a secret desire most women have that allows them to escape the limits of what is considered ‘lady like’ and act like a 'nasty little slut', even if it’s just with their boyfriend or spouse. Don’t worry, this desire is normal, and it’s not something new. Women throughout history have admitted to feeling ‘envious’ of the more promiscuous women.
This emotional ‘trashiness’ is not only a common fantasy for women, but for men as well. The old adage about 'being a lady by day and a whore by night to keep your man' holds more truth to it than many people care to admit in today's politically correct, sexual-harassment-law-suit-happy society. Men love a woman that will be the perfect lady at a party, then be their private slut when their alone, and having a woman that enjoys anal sex is one way this emotional need is fulfilled.
Another emotional satisfaction anal sex provides many couples is the fact the woman is allowing her partner full, unrestricted access to her body. This ‘final offering’ of her most prohibited region to a man can give both partners a sense of bonding in a relationship unlike any other.
A final reward is the sense of dominance anal sex provides. For woman who enjoy feeling dominated, and men who enjoy feeling dominant (or visa-versa with the use of a strap on dildo), anal sex can provide a sense of control and power as much as some bondage play can.
As children, many people find touching their anus, and even inserting things into it, very enjoyable. Some teens and women explore the pleasures of anal stimulation during masturbation sessions, so it is no surprise then that so many people, perhaps secretively, find anal stimulation enjoyable.
Just like any other sexual variations, anal sex isn't for everyone, but if you don't have any inhibitions about it, and you enjoy experimenting with new sexual experiences, anal sex is defiantly something you will want to try.

I’ve Heard Anal Sex is Painful:
First and foremost, anal sex is not supposed to hurt, and if you're being pressured into it and think it’s going to, it usually will. Many women that either weren't prepared for anal sex, or had no idea what steps to take to prepare for it, have had a bad previous experience due to painful anal penetration by a partner, and have rejected anal sex since then, and for good reason. Unless you're willingly engaging in a BDSM relationship, it's a pain you don't want repeated.
Relaxation isn’t the only requirement for a good anal penetration experience. Too much aggression and no lube can cause excruciating pain, and can put any man or woman off anal sex permanently.

The Anal Sex Guide for the Beginner

Even if you chose to skip the information section above about anal sex, before we actually get into the step by step process of learning how to have painless anal sex  (the how-to part of this section), there are a few very important things you need to understand:
First is the fact penetration of the anus is not something our bodies are designed to accept naturally. The anus is not designed for the insertion of anything, and it will attempt to eject an object that is inserted into it, just like a gag reflex when attempting to insert things into the throat. There are two rings of muscle around the anal canal, one at the outside, and one on the inside. The first one will open easily, but the second one is designed to prevent things from entering the body thorough the anus, and this includes a man’s cock. This second ring will automatically clamp shut when anal penetration occurs, especially if the woman is frightened or apprehensive, or if the man goes too fast.
Even if you are able to quickly insert a finger in your ass painlessly, it may just as quickly cause extreme pain when your body automatically tries to expel it.
Second, unlike the vagina, the anus does not self lubricate, and may contract violently, causing painful muscle spasms when things are inserted into it. Anal lubrication is an absolute necessity, and LOTS of it, especially when you’re first starting out! The lubrication helps things to slip in without irritating the delicate anal and rectal tissues.
Third is the fact you and your partner need to be patient. Once you become anally proficient, you will be able to control the natural contraction of the muscles of the rectum until after penetration, but to reach that point takes time, and that means patience. The anal muscles must be slowly conditioned so they don't contract or spasm when something is going in instead of out. For some women, and men, this can take days or even weeks of practice before you are comfortable with the penetration and able to overcome the body’s natural reaction to eject the intruding object.
Although it’s not absolutely necessary, to properly train your ass to allow insertion of your partner’s cock, or anything more than a finger or two without pain, it is strongly recommended that you have an enema (or a disposable enema that you can refill) at least two butt plugs, one Beginner-Small Size and one Intermediate-Average Size, and a normal size dildo, (not one of the massive 15" King Dongs, but one the size of the average male  cock).
Why two butt plugs? Although the differences in the size of the butt plugs may not seem like much, the 1/4" difference in diameter makes a BIG difference when it comes to anal penetrations.
Why the average size dildo? Even if you are wanting to learn how to have anal sex strictly for anal intercourse with your partner rather than masturbating, you will want a dildo to practice with so that you can control every movement. If you don’t already own these items, it is highly recommended you invest in them to help make your anal training experience more pleasurable, and more effective.

DO NOT attempt to use any household item as substitutes for butt plugs or anal dongs under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE! Even if you have used other items for vaginal insertion, even as sensitive as the vagina is, it is a lot tougher than the anus. The skin of the anus is much thinner and subject to cutting, scratching & tearing that can result in severe pain & infections. Butt plugs are cheap to buy, starting around $12.00 to $15.00, so there is no reason to risk your health by not getting them.

Getting Started:
To teach yourself how to accept a man’s cock in your ass, or anything else, you need to start with a clean rectum, preferably inside and out, a LOT of lube, and a much smaller object that you can control. Luckily, the last item does not need to be purchased, because you already have it... namely, your own finger.
Start with a warm water enema. If you don’t own an enema, you can buy a disposable enema at the store. The fleet enemas you usually find are too strong for regular use for anal sex, and excessive use of them can actually kill essential bacteria, so you will want to empty the medicated content from the bottle, rinse it well and replace it with nothing more than warm water, then follow the instructions on the package for use.
If you’re going to be flying solo to start, you can either wash up in the sink or in the tub or shower, whichever you prefer. Use plain soap and water to wash the outer regions of your anus, but soap shouldn't be used on the mucous membranes of the vulva or inside the anus.
The anus and rectum are very delicate so you may want to trim your fingernails. Wearing rubber or latex gloves is an option, and some people say they make your finger easier to insert, but others have said they actually make it harder, and create a somewhat impersonal feeling. If you try using gloves, and you having problems inserting a finger with them on, try removing them and using your bare finger.
If you’re partner is going to be helping you, or learning to accept a vibrator or strap on himself, then jump into the shower together and wash each other’s bodies, and obviously each other’s ass. This is better than washing up separately as it will allow you to sexually stimulate each other, making the experience even more pleasurable. Just remember that even though you’re working together, it may take either one of you much longer than the other one to learn to accept a foreign object in your ass.
You should use a water based lube designed for anal sex, which would wash off in the shower, so once you’re nice and clean, dry off and move to the bedroom. Even if you choose not to buy a lube designed for anal sex, if you use an oil or silicone based lube, it can still wash off in the shower and leave your anus dry and subject to pain.

Anal Massage:
The first step in learning to accept anything penetrating your ass is an anal massage so that you can get the anal muscles to relax prior to any type of insertion. When the anus if first touched, it usually contracts (that puckering feeling), preventing entry, so start by lubricating your finger and your anus liberally. Even though we’re just going to massage the outside of anus at this point, you still want to have plenty of lubricant down there. Don’t worry about excess, you can’t use too much lube, but you can use too little!
Once you’re lubed up nicely, slowly massage the anus with light circular strokes. Start out easy, increasing pressure as you go. After a few minutes when the initial puckering feeling goes away, press on it gently, but don’t penetrate it yet. It shouldn’t take long until you feel the muscles start to completely relax and the anus begin to open up.
If you’re having a hard time getting the muscles to relax, sometimes it will help to divert your mind’s attention from your ass. Many times 'over thinking' the whole matter can make things worse. You're trying to make the muscles around your anus relax so much you're actually increasing the anal tension you're trying to reduce. Since the anal massage should already be enhancing your sexual arousal, try performing the anal massage while rubbing and caressing your pussy, or your cock as the case may be. The pleasure from the genital massage may keep you from focusing on the anal stimulation as much.
The anal stimulation should be pleasurable, and if you're with a partner, it is essential that both partners to be relaxed and comfortable. If you are rushed or pressured, it won’t work. In any case, it may take anywhere from a few minutes to several weeks before either of you are comfortable with any form of anal stimulation. This time frame can vary widely from person to person, so if either you or your partner are not immediately able to get the muscles around your anus to relax, don't get frustrated. Remember, patience is one of the necessary requirements, so go slow until you can feel completely relaxed.
If at any time inserting an object into your ass causes pain, stop and continue the Anal Massage.
If the pain persists, stop all anal play and try again later or another day.

Popping Your Anal Cherry - Your First Penetration:
Once you’re accustomed to anal stimulation (whether it's taken you a few minutes or a few weeks) and you are aware that your anus is relaxed and not tense, or your partner’s anus if you’ll be inserting your finger into their ass instead of your own, you can start exploring anal penetration.
Start by adding more lubrication to your finger and your anus if necessary. Remember, you can’t have too much, but you can have too little. Once you’re well lubed again, start by pressing the tip of a single finger slightly into the opening. If you feel it tighten, stop, withdrawal your finger, and resume the anal massage for a couple of minutes. When the anus has relaxed again, slowly insert your fingertip again. Go slow and don’t expect to be able to insert your entire finger in at first. You may only be able to get the tip of your finger, or slightly more to enter before the muscles tighten, and if you go too fast, you may experience discomfort. You will be able to feel this yourself if you’re flying solo, but it you’re inserting your finger into your partner’s ass; you will feel if their anus starts to tighten. For women, doing Kegel exercises while a finger is inserted will help you learn to relax and contract your sphincter muscles. For men, the equivalent is flexing and relaxing your cock. This will come in handy later when you’re ready to move on to larger objects.
Once you can insert your whole finger into your ass without it tightening involuntarily, you will need to work your way up to accepting movements inside of you. Start by moving your finger around slowly at first. You will probably feel the muscles start to tighten again. This is natural, so stop and hold your finger still until you can relax the muscles, then start moving your finger again. Hopefully, each time you will be able to move your finger a little more before you start to feel the muscles tighten as you condition yourself to the sensation of the movements.
Once you can move your finger around and control your anal contractions, start moving your finger in and out, again stopping if your muscles contract, then continuing once you get them to relax again.
When you can successfully finger fuck your ass without the muscles tightening involuntarily, it’s time to start preparing the opening for larger objects.
At any time if you feel like your anus or your finger is getting dry, add more anal lube. Keeping your anus well lubed is one of the secrets to training your ass to be penetrated without pain. 

Working Your Way Up to Larger Objects - Anal Stretching Exercise:
Now that you can control your anal contractions, you need to start stretching the skin around the anus. Start by gently pushing outward on the sphincter, working your way around in all directions. As before, if the muscles start to contract, stop pushing, relax them, and then continue. When you can slide your finger in and out of your ass while pushing against the opening in all directions, and control the muscle contractions, you’re ready to start working your way up to larger objects.
Jumping from something as small as your finger to a man’s cock, or a similar sized object, doesn’t work for most people. Rather than grabbing one of the butt plugs or the dildo at this point, simply insert a second finger into your anus, always following the pattern of stopping if your anal muscles contract until you can relax them again, and don’t forget to keep adding lube if you need more.
This is a critical point for a lot of people, as their anal muscles will start to contract regardless of how much control they had using one finger, and they think they need to instantly go back to using one finger. It is natural for your ass to tighten up as you start inserting larger objects, but you are conditioning your ass to accept larger objects while controlling your anal muscle contractions, so if your muscles do tighten, try keeping both fingers inserted and hold them very still until you can relax the muscles again. If you find it impossible to relax your muscles with two fingers inserted in your ass, then it may be necessary to step back and use one finger to stretch the anus more.
As you move on and try to insert a larger object in your ass, it is going to be natural for the muscles to try and contract, and it is also natural for it to be more difficult to get them to relax than it was with a smaller one, so unless you experience pain, as you work your way up to larger objects, retreating to smaller ones should be a last resort. If you do experience pain, step back and stretch the anus more, or stop for the day if you start feeling sore or tense, or the pain doesn't go away.
When you are able to slide two fingers in and out, push on the sides of the anus in all directions, and prevent your anal muscles from contracting, it’s time to move on.
Because of the shape of the human hand, using three fingers to probe your ass is not only difficult, but it is hard to stretch the anus evenly and prevent tearing the skin, which is critical at this point. This is where the butt plugs come in to play.
If at any time inserting an object into your ass causes pain, stop and continue the Anal Stretching Exercise.
If the pain persists, stop all anal play and try again later or another day.

Using the Butt Plug:
Now that you've successfully been able to insert two fingers into your ass and move them around comfortably, it's time to move on. Stretching the skin evenly is is mandatory to help prevent tearing and learning to accept larger objects into the anus. The shape of the human hand makes it difficult to insert three fingers into your ass, and it increases the risk of tearing the skin because it stretches the skin in unevenly. In order to properly stretch the skin around the anus evenly, it's necessary to use a butt plug.
Butt plugs are small, hands-free anal dildos with a tapered head and a flared base (not to be confused with anal probes that don't have a flared base). The taper allows you to slowly dilate the anus, and the flared base prevents it from sliding all the way up into the rectum.

You will be using the Intermediate size butt plug (1 1/2" wide), so just like you did with your fingers, lubricate the butt plug and your anus liberally.

Wait a minute. If I’m going to go from two fingers to the larger butt plug, why do I need to buy a small one too?

I’m glad you asked that question.
Even though a small butt plug isn’t much larger than your index finger, it can do something your finger can’t. It can stay in place all day while you go about your daily business.
That’s right. In order to keep your ass ‘trained,’ one of the most important things that many anal sex guides fail to mention is the fact that once you train your ass to accept penetration, it doesn’t just automatically accept penetration from then on. That takes time and experience! In order to have anal sex without going through the entire training routine every time, you have to keep your ass used to having an object inserted in it. We have found that inserting the butt plug and keeping it in throughout the day until you have gained some anal experience is the best way to accomplish this*. Just like when you started training your ass to accept penetration, you starting with your finger instead of a dildo, and you will need to start with a small butt plug the first time you wear one for an extended period of time. Then, after a few days when it feels natural to have it inserted throughout the day, you move up to the medium size. Even if doing this feels a little odd at first, it will quickly become such a pleasurable experience that you may want to continue wearing a butt plug on a regular basis. You may also decide to move up to some of the larger size butt plugs, or one of the vibrating butt plugs available. Eventually your ass until you will become so comfortable with the feeling of having your anus being penetrated, you will be able to have anal sex any time without having to worry about not being able to control your muscle contractions. Remember, once you’re use to having your anus stretched large enough to accept a man’s cock, the whole secret to satisfying and painless anal sex is all in your anal muscle control.

*Many people that enjoy anal stimulation admit that they insert a butt plug in the morning and keep it in all day long, removing it only long enough to use the bathroom. Since we have never heard of a medical study being done to determine whether or not there are any adverse affects from the extended use of a butt plug, if you're concerned about wearing a butt plug for an extended period of time, we recommend you ask your doctor's opinion on the matter.

OK, back to using the medium size butt plug.
As you start to insert the butt plug, the tapered tip will make initial penetration easy. It will get a little tighter as you proceed to the thicker part of the butt plug, and as you push it farther in, it may suddenly slide all the way in! Don’t panic. That’s what it’s supposed to do. If you noticed how it’s thicker in the middle that at the tip or the base, you’ll see why it slides in easier once it’s past the largest point. This is so it won’t slide out when you’re wearing it during the day.
Repeat the muscle control exercises that you did with your fingers (holding still until your muscles relax), then begin moving the butt plug around and fucking your ass slowly with it, repeating the muscle control exercises as often as necessary.
Once you can comfortably pop the butt plug in and out and move it around without your anal muscles contracting, you're ready to move on the dildo. More...

Health concerns about anal sex:

There have been a lot of rumors in the past about strange and mysterious diseases caused by anal sex. These rumors have no basis in fact, and there is no more medical risk or health risk involved in having anal sex than any other type of sex.

Unless you feel pain , or you experience bleeding (usually caused by the skin not being stretched sufficiently as you move up to inserting a larger object into your ass) and you don't stop until you have given your ass a chance to heal, ANAL SEX IS AS SAFE AS VAGINAL SEX, and carries the same risks of STDs that vaginal sex does as well. As far as any pain or bleeding, it's just like any other injury to your body. If you scratch your arm on a sharp object, and you pick at the scab constantly, you prolong the healing process and run the risk of infection. If you pull a muscle in your arm, you will feel pain, and if continue to do things that put strain on that muscle, it's going to take longer to heal, and possibly increase the damage. The same level of common sense applies to any injuries you might suffer from having anal sex. Over the years there have always been rumors about different sex acts, like masturbating will cause pimples or cause hair to grow on your knuckles. What is more likely is that when parents became aware their adolescent son was masturbating, he was entering puberty so his body hair was already starting to be more visible, and more than likely he was already getting pimples. The strange and mysterious diseases caused by anal sex were probably Aids and HIV. Remember, Aids and HIV were around long before they became common public knowledge, and for a while Aids was associated exclusively with the gay community, where anal sex is the only option for penetrative sex between two men. Once people became more informed about the disease and found out it could be transmitted through vaginal intercourse as well, most of the rumors faded, but like any good horror story, they didn't go away over night.

So have we left anything out?
There have been a lot of books and articles written about anal sex, and we've enjoyed reading most of them, but to be honest, a lot of the content is more filler than anything else. We figured most people would rather learn some easy to remember instructions and get started on their anal exploration rather than spend days reading about it first, so rather than include page after page of mind numbing information and medical terms, we decided to keep it as short and simple as possible.

Even though the information we chose to include here is pretty straight forward and easy to remember, watching a How-To movie will make it easier to learn something than just reading about it. Most people retain more information when they see it rather than when they read it anyway, so whether you're a beginner or have some experience with anal sex, we recommend you buy the Personal Touch Video Series from noted Sex-plorer and Playgirl advice columnist Jamye Waxman. Not only does this 3 Disc Set include the secrets of strap-on sex and the ABCs of anal play, it has sections about using a vibrator on your man, safely enjoying kinky toys, mutual masturbation, role playing, sexual fantasies, and Much More! Other DVDs you might want to add to your library are Nina Hartley's Guide to Anal Sex and the Better Sex Guide To Anal Pleasure for other tips and information about having anal sex.

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How hard can a man thrust his dick in when he fucks my ass?
Just like vaginal sex, a man can thrust into your ass as hard you want him to! If you've followed the steps in The Complete Anal Sex Guide for the Beginner, but your still an anal virgin when it comes to taking a man's dick in your ass, then the first time he penetrates you, he needs to move slow, thrusting gently until you get used to the rhythm. Your anal muscles may try to contract the first time his dick penetrates your ass, so it is important to let him know if he needs to stop and hold very still until you get relaxed and tell him to continue. After you get use to the feel of his dick being in your ass, you can have him increase his pace and the amount of force as much as you want. Even if you're not an anal virgin, but not overly experienced yet, don't worry if it takes you some time before you can have a man pounding away at your ass. Even experienced women usually need a man to enter her slowly at first every time they have anal sex, and they usually need the man to start out thrusting slow, but once he's in and you're comfortable, have him pick up the pace to suit your wants and needs. You can have him keep increasing his speed and force as much as you want, and when you're ready, have him pound away to both of your heart's content!
 

What about a woman that wants to butt fuck a man or another woman?
Lesbians and bi-sexual women who want to penetrate their female partner, and straight women who want to penetrate their male partner will need a high quality Strap On Dildo, usually referred to a simply a Strap On. Cheap strap ons with a poorly designed harnesses will not give you a satisfying experience. You need a harness that will hold your dildo in place while leaving your hands free, and the dildo should feel as if it is part of your body. Even if you are a totally feminine woman, you should think of the Strap On as an extension of your body, much like a male penis. You want the base of the Strap On to press and rub up against your clitoris. Like any other type of anal penetration, Anal Lubrication is not an option, it's a necessity!
For heterosexual couples, many women will enjoy being the aggressor by using the strap on. They can be the one in charge for a change, while their partner can enjoy being the passive or receptive one for a change. While achieving an orgasm for a woman using a strap on is certainly possible, most women experience more of an emotional pleasure from the psychological role reversal rather than physical sexual pleasure. Although many heterosexual men have an emotional resistance to being penetrated, a man's ass is just as sensitive and receptive as a woman's, and men can learn to enjoy being on the receiving end of anal sex just as much as women. Women who want their male partner involved as the recipient of anal sex can introduce their partner to anal sex by stimulating his ass with her finger while giving him a blowjob. Once he is comfortable with the thought of anal stimulation, they can discuss bringing a dildo or strap on into play.

Should I use a condom for anal sex?
While it's not necessary to use a condom if you're in a monogamous relationship and there is no fear of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs), many people prefer to use a condom to easily move from anal sex to vaginal or oral sex, or visa versa. Since contracting HIV and other STDs are possible while having anal, oral or vaginal sex, using condoms for anal sex with new partners or multiple partners is always a safe practice. While a thorough cleaning with an Intimate Wash designed for cleansing the vagina or ass is usually sufficient for personal hygiene prior anal sex, some people still have a concern about the possibility of feces residue while engaging anal sex, and using a condom will help alleviate this concern.

Is there any one sex position that's better for anal sex?
Anal sex can be performed in any position that gives the man access to the woman's ass, including the Female Superior positions (Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl), the Spoon, and variations on the Missionary position as long as the woman lifts her hips enough to provide access to her ass. The Doggie Style position is the most popular for anal sex. There's actually a couple of reasons for this. Not only does it provide easy access to the woman's ass by either a man or a another woman, when you are in the doggie style position, sometimes spelt doggy style, you have more control over the sphincter muscles, especially if you vary the position slightly to the face down position, where you stay on your knees, but lower your arms so that your upper body is resting on your chest rather than on your hands.

A friend said I shouldn't use a dong for anal sex, only a dildo. Aren't dildos and dongs the same thing?
Although Dildos and Dongs are so similar that the terms are practically interchangeable, true Anal Aficionados and Sex Toy Connoisseurs know that Dildos are the more realistic of the two - often looking like a penis complete to base shaped like a pair of balls. Unlike most dongs that are straight at the base, a dildo can be used for full insertion during anal penetration since the base of a dildo will not allow it to be drawn into the ass. Caution should always be used when inserting any sex toy without a base into the ass. Should a dong, a probe, a vibrator, or any other sex toy without a base be inadvertently drawn completely into the ass (this does happen), it may be difficult or even impossible for you to remove. This can result in severe pain, and an embarrassing trip to the hospital to have the sex toy removed!

Can I use the vibrator or dong I already own for anal penetration?
Although a dildo is necessary for full anal penetration, as long as the vibrator or dong isn't too big, it is held firmly in one hand at all times, and it is not fully inserted into the ass, the vibrator or dong (like an anal probe or wand) will work just fine for anal penetration for either stimulation prior to anal sex, anal stimulation during vaginal or oral sex, or for anal masturbation Some vibrators are very small, and if yours is too small, you should use extreme caution so you don't lose it inside your ass! (Read the answer to the question above for more details about using sex toys that don't have a base).

I found a 'Squirting Dong' at the Adam & Eve website. (It's called a Cock Shooter Ejaculating Dong) Can it be used for anal sex too?
Of course. Almost any sex toy that can be safely inserted into the anus without the risk of the sex toy being drawn completely into the ass can be used for anal sex, including the Cock Shooter Ejaculating Dong. Just remember that the Cock Shooter Ejaculating Dong isn't a dildo, and even though the base is larger than the shaft, it isn't as large as that of a dildo, so use caution not to insert it fully into your ass.

I'm new to anal sex, and a double dong is too large for me to insert in my ass while my girlfriend uses it in her pussy. Any suggestions?
Try the Double Pleaser Jelly. It is a Very Popular Dong for dual anal - vaginal penetration because it is unique in that it offers Both A Large End for Vaginal Insertion, AND a Small End for easy Anal penetration. When shared with a partner, the Double Pleaser Jelly can Satisfy BOTH the Vaginal Penetration and stimulation for one partner, and the Anal Penetration and stimulation for the other Without The Risk of a typical Double Dong being too large for Anal Penetration and causing pain or discomfort to the partner that opts for Anal Penetration. The Double Pleaser Jelly can also allow unique sexual positions, such as either a male or female partner laying face down receiving a nice Ass Fucking, while a female partner can straddle him or her and enjoy having her Pussy Fucked at the Same Time!

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